Tuesday, October 14, 2008

What is wrong with that baby??

Yes, someone asked me that.. at church.

My baby cries. A lot.

Another question I love (sarcasm)... is...

"Is he a good baby?" Well, of course he is! He is MY baby! Just because he cries doesn't mean he's a bad baby! He is a BABY!

There are those of you out there who have never had a crier (and both of mine were and now are criers) so you may not can sympathize. Life with a high needs infant is difficult. If I don't make it to [insert event here] it might just be that I couldn't even get in the shower because my beautiful, sweet baby boy cries a lot. There may be hours where I can't put him down. And that's okay... because at this point in my life.. this season... he is my priority. And although I know that, it's stressful. It's stressful to think that someone may be questioning whether or not you know what you're doing with your child. Or whether or not you really have a good excuse for missing church. Or how come your house is a gigantic mess!

I'm in the process of trying to figure out what might be causing Eli to be so fussy all the time. I am nursing and so far the biggest 'cause' for these kinds of things in nursing infants is dairy. So, I'm eliminating dairy from my diet. Cheese, milk, sour cream, butter, ect. Not only have I decided to eliminate those obvious dairies but I've decided to eliminate hidden dairies as well. That means looking a lots of labels. In case you're wondering, this site has a list of the hidden diary that can be found in ingredient lists. A good resource for me was this vegan (which means nothing derived from animals) site. I was happy to find a few of my favorites (Wheat Thins to name one) on the site! It takes a few weeks for milk proteins to be out of my system so it may take a while for me to see a difference but I'm praying I see it sooner than later!

Along with eliminating dairy, I'm keeping a food journal. So if there may be other things that seem to bother him I might can see a pattern.

I love my little boy.. and if this is what it takes, then this is what I'll do. And to be completely honest, if he does have a dairy allergy/intolerance, then there's no way we could afford hypoallergenic formula! So, I don't have much of a choice! :)

So bring on the rice milk (hey, it's not that bad if you don't actually drink it! Just pour it over cereal or dip these into it!) and fake butter (oh my, that hurts me more than you know.. if you've read my blog for any length you know how I love the real stuff!)....


Bethany said...

I am so sorry people aren't very understanding. I can't stand the "good baby" questions. I'll be praying for you as you work this out. Hopefully in the next couple of weeks things will get better with the dairy out of your system!

DonnaK said...

hey girl! I am going to be praying for you about all this!! I know what you mean about people not realizing what they are saying! I have a similar issue with people asking if you want a boy or a girl...when I say "it doesn't matter.." the next thing out of their mouth is "just as long as it's healthy". Of course I want my baby to be healty, but when I was pregnant with Avery I started feeling really guilty about saying that, because even if my baby isn't healthy, I am still going to want them and love them just as much!! Anyway, that may sound silly....but that was one of the things that bothered me when I was pregnant, and it has stuck with, I just don't say it anymore to anyone! I know people usually don't mean anything bad by things when they say stuff like that, but that doesn't mean that it isn't going to hurt someone's feelings!!
I really hope you can find what may be causing the fussiness and that you can find it soon!

Sherilyn -Dominee Huisvrouw said...

Well, I'm glad that I'm not the only one w/ a difficult baby. I'm not glad you have to go through it too, but I'm glad I'm not alone!

Kari Sanchez said...

I have had a friend with 2 high needs babies and non stop criers. People need to be more sympathetic and realize you aren't neglecting him or making him cry. You are a great mother, doing all that you can to give your baby what he needs or figure out what his needs are. I will be very curious to find out if cutting out dairy works, please keep us updated. I pray things get better.

Misty said...

Bless you! Nathan isn't even here yet and like some of the others who've commented I am tired of the typical, cliche-like comments and questions people ask! I'm not suprised by much any more! I will continue to pray for you as you search out what in your diet might be causing Eli tummy trouble! I admire you and your devotion to your family!